There is racism.
There is sexism.
And then there is ageism.
Everything to do with separatism and individualism.
What is going on in the world when all humans are supposed to be just humans, animals of sorts and that none of us are immortal!
Each and every one of us is going to get 'older' (than) by the second.
This blog is a platform for all of us 50 + women who are feeling 'old', invisible, ignored, and humiliated to a certain extent. This is a safe place to hook up with each other and back each other up, exploring what it is that makes us who we are, unapologetically. I wish we could feel good about ourselves at whatever age we are if we were willing to be naked and vulnerable. Let's help each other to be comfortable in our own skin. We still have a lot to offer and I am not going to be consigned to invisibility.
A millennial is going to enter midlife sooner or later. And a midlifer always remembers the younger version that she was. None of us want to be stereotyped with unwanted notions and judgements and we can only truly know someone through their life stories, not based on what we believe or our very own opinions.
How am I different from a millennial? Not much really. I am a scanner, creative, I love diversity, excellent at multi-tasking, a no-shit attitude and a rule breaker. I am unwilling to commit to jobs which involves long hours and measly pay. I have been an entrepreneur for over 15 years and loving it (together with my failure). Being able to work whenever and wherever I want is already the biggest perk. I was born with a millennial mindset and I am adamant to use my innate traits positively, to be involved in creative endeavours, pursuing challenges and make things happen.
So is it possible to have friends who are 20 or 30 years younger? Of course! The only difference is that the millennials have come into this world in a technology permeated time and space, which makes me vintage coming from the Stone Age. We still care about our looks. Don't you care to keep your clothing looking presentable and check your appearance before you step out the door? I for one always dress according to my personal style, as opposed to following the trend. I have my head shaved a year and a half ago , not because I crave attention but for the reason I hate spending time and money keeping maintenance, and I like the way I look skinhead! How I look is none of any body's business and honestly, not many people care! So what if my legs don't turn heads? I have to make sure not to wear anything which shows the skin above my ankles because of the unsightly scars from chronic eczema. However I am still confident about how I look and feel, that I am worthy and pretty by my standard. I might be 'out of shape' compared to my younger self, but I have challenges to manage that come with ageing than fretting about my body shape. We can never defy gravity and having medical appointments all over my planner has become a norm which I have rightfully accepted. Physical and mental decline is inevitable but I never let them define me. And yes we are conscious of the world situation and the ecological phenomenon and that's where activists step in to see to it. Do you realise how many midlifers volunteer as an advocate for dire causes? I am not on Instagram / Pinterest but I make sure I check my Facebook notifications every now and then and that my inbox is reduced to a minimum.
So why waving the white flag just because we have lived half a century? And how old is old anyway?
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